Pastor Geoff talks about the ultimate goals of parenting. All of the goals of parenting can be summarized and summed up in one ultimate aim: to be faithful to what God has called us to do in His Word.
So your child has sinned and you've taken them to the room for discipline. So what do you do then? What, practically, does discipline look like?
Gather the facts - "what happened?"
Reach the heart -- "how did you respond?" Why?
Expose the sin -- Specify the sin (heart of selfishness, control, anger, etc.)
Prove it biblically --- ideally, open a Bible and show them the Scriptures.
Give the discipline -- use the rod.
Express tender love -- hold them, hug them, verbally tell them: "I love you"
Give the gospel -- do you know why I did this? You've sinned. God is holy. You're a sinner...
Pray with them -- Pray for them and move on tenderly, lovingly, caringly.
Pastor Geoff gives counsel to all parents -- and fathers, particularly -- to hear the preached Word well and to impress them and apply them to their own hearts and lives and THEN to re-preach these truths to the children throughout the upcoming week.
Many illustrations and examples are given in this podcast.
May God graciously equip and help us to do this for His glory and for the good of our children.